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Getting your ex back is a slippery slope and is not always rewarding. It's no wonder that the term get my ex back, get back with my ex, how to get my ex back, or any similar combination are searched on Google? over one million times a month. That's a lot of people searching for answers on how to win back the devotion of their life. The discouraging reality is that most of these searches will produce results filled with gimmicks, tricks, and mind games that at best will temporarily attract the attention of the love you are trying to gain.
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(6). Don't send them a letter: Does anyone really send letters anymore? Skip this one.
(7). Remove all social media footprints: It would be wise to eliminate any and all social media footprints or connections with your ex. The last thing you need during this phase of the breakup is to read a tweet about them out on a date, or see a picture of them doing body shots off of a bartender. Eliminate the temptation and go dark on the social media.
(8). Remove all pictures of them for easy access: Get rid of all their pictures. This includes hard copies as well as those pictures you have stored in your phone. You don't need the constant reminder. Don't worry this is only temporary. You can back everything up and leave them with someone you trust you're a viewing later on when you are more confident.
(9). Delete all old text messages: The same principle applies to text messages as to digital pictures. Delete them, or back them up and then delete them, but you need to get them out of your sight. Besides, what are you saving all those old text for anyway? When everything works out the way you plan, you will soon begin receiving new ones.
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As time went on and I passed the initial 30 days and had identified new habits, I changed her name to THE DEVIL. Now, every time she would call or text, I was reminded that being with her I was living in my own personal hell. These simple reminders set the tone and correct my thoughts.